Tom and I got married fourteen years ago today. We were married in a small, fairly casual ceremony on a very warm evening in Orlando, Florida, on a balcony overlooking a lagoon. I wore a lovely beaded suit and had a huge hairdo. (Long story.) Tom wore a splashy tie I chose myself and got teary-eyed during the ceremony. It was a beautiful evening.
Like all long(ish) marriages, ours has had its ups and downs. Some of them were big ups, and some of the downs have been big, too. Anybody who has been married a long time will tell you that the secret to a long marriage is not getting divorced. I know that sounds silly, but it’s true. I mean: the secret is staying together through the lows and working together to create the next high.
In honor of our fourteen years together, here are a few quotes on marriage that really resonate with me.
- Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. ~Simone Signoret
- Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. ~Barnett R. Brickner
- A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time. ~Anne Taylor Fleming
- Only choose in marriage a man whom you would choose as a friend if he were a woman. ~Joseph Joubert
- A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. ~Ruth Bell Graham
- Don’t smother each other. No one can grow in shade. ~Leo Buscaglia
- Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast. ~Marlene Dietrich
And last, but certainly not least…
- Like good wine, marriage gets better with age – once you learn to put a cork in it. ~Gene Perret
(Happy anniversary, Tom! I love you more than yesterday but less than tomorrow.)